Do You Know A Ms. "I Gotta Drop Everything Because I Got A Man" Or Are You That Woman Yourself?
I had a late night sista-gurl chat with a close friend last night. She was feeling frustrated because her best friend has recently turned into the invisible woman since she met a new man. Not returning her phone calls, wishy-washy about getting together, skipping out on simple things that they use to do together in the past (going to the gym, shopping, church, sorority meetings, etc....). Just being MIA period. My friend was not begrudging her best buddy being in a relationship, she just couldn't understand why this woman had become so wrapped up in a relationship at the expense of their friendship.
Being that the"I Gotta Drop Everything Because I Got A Man" syndrome is one of my personal pet peeves and sends me into a woman-hating rage, I just listened. My sister-friend was hurting and she didn't need me ranting. She had every right to be upset and disappointed. In my opinion, someone needs to create a warning sticker to put across the ass of women who drop everything when a man comes into their life.
Don't get me wrong. I'm certainly not against a woman having a man. I want everyone to be in love and feel fulfilled in their intimate relationships. What I can't stand is the idea that some women believe that they have to devote every living and breathing second to their new man at the expense of everything else. Men rarely do this, but women do much too often for my tastes.
And what kills me is the woman that does this is usually the woman that was mega-dependent on her girlfriends for company in the first place. Always calling, always needing something, always the first to warn you about getting a HIV test or background check on a man you met, but running off with the first strange man she meets without doing any of what she warned you about.
Adding insult to injury, this kind of woman is the first to disappear with a man without batting an eye, until the man gets gone and then, she's back expecting you to welcome her back like nothing has happened. That's not friendship in my book. My life wasn't on hold while you disappeared with the latest man in your life.
I too had someone recently get in the wind behind a man, but it wasn't the MIA friendship that burned me, but the fact that my time had been wasted and that the person was doing something completely against everything they had previously preached. And more than hating women that drop everything for a man, I really can't stand women who waste my time and talk one way and act another!
Do you know a woman like this? Are you that kind of woman? I would love to hear your opinion on this subject. Just a fair warning, I'm a firm believer that if a woman thinks that it is so important to spend every waking moment in their man's face to keep him, then in my view, that is not a man worth keeping.
