Black Female Jedi Mind Tricks
Today, I find myself extremely angry, depressed, and disgruntled. Since I started blogging I have been completely intrigued at the number of black men and black women that attack other black women for having a pro-black women stance on any issue at all. Oh there will be the right statements made "I support black women" and "I'm a black woman too" and then comes the "but"......
And this "but".....always involves something these individuals always eventually state is more important than the original stated issue or problem focusing on black women! They say, "well if only the black woman or women had made better choices," "why weren't they at home with their mamas?" etc...etc...etc....blah, blah, blah...... Adding insult to injury, if you attempt to defend your pro-black woman stance, you are accused of "not seeing the big picture", "copying the blunders of the white women's movement", "not concerned with the plight of black men." etc...etc...etc.....blah, blah, blah.......
I can and have been irritated with black men about their failure to understand the need to have an intensive and extensive discussion of issues affecting black women, but their resistance and ignorance is understandable, they are men. It's the black women that piss me off. Cut the apron strings and take your titties out out the black man's mouth, they are grown-ass men! The simple act of discussing, let me repeat, THE SIMPLE ACT OF DISCUSSING black women's issues should not trigger your passionate and vigorous defense of black men or black people to other black women. They are not the subject of discussion and that is the point. If we get black women in a healthier space emotionally, physically, mentally, etc....then all black people will benefit.
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with black women discussing their issues, problems, and concerns, free from the burdens of the entire black community. I am damn sick and tired of having to defend that position. I care about the black community, I love being black, I love being a black woman, but I want just one minute to talk about the world I live in without having to worry about everyone else and their problems. Is that too much to ask?
FOR THE LAST DAMN TIME, IF YOU SUPPORT A PRO-BLACK WOMAN STANCE OR A DISCUSSION THAT REVOLVES SPECIFICALLY AROUND BLACK WOMEN, YOU ARE NOT.......
Separating your gender from your race. You are not anti-black or you are not anti-black male, and you are not a traitor. Every racial group in the world has special interest groups, but only in the black community is it a problem if black women want their issues to be considered first. This backwards ideal must cease existence in the black community.
A black feminist unless you chose to accept the label. Oh horrors! Remember that "the F word" sends many black women running to the next available mountain top to shout like Spartacus; "I am not a feminist!" So many black women fear being labelled a feminist or womanist that it has become a powerful tool to silence black female voices. Why is that?
Putting black women before black people. How is that? If every statistic says that black women control the money in the black community, are making the most educational gains in the black community, are heading up most of the households in the black community, holding up the black church, have the most powerful voting block in the black community, how in the hell can improving the lives of black women hurt the overall black community? If you don't take care of the engine driving the train, the train goes nowhere!
DON'T FALL FOR THE BLACK FEMALE JEDI MIND TRICKS!
