Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Words For Warfare

"I cried because the Obama family will be the face of leadership of the most powerful country in the world. For too long, black families have been disparaged as being dysfunctional and the root of America's problems. But Obama and his wife, Michelle, have presented an image that speaks to the strengths, rather than the weaknesses, of black families." - Mary Mitchell


Shurl November 25, 2008 at 8:21 AM  

They do speak to the strenth of black families. But, isn't their family rare in African-American communities--especially among men and women in their 30s and 40s? How many black children are being raised by single moms? Why does this statistic keep rising?

La ~ Incognita November 25, 2008 at 1:05 PM  
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wisdomteachesme November 25, 2008 at 1:42 PM  

the worst of a group is always the loudest and the most seen-but never the largest part of a group.

When the people that report, only report the bad things--of course that is all others focus on--even some of us realize that all we are focusing on is the bad and rotten. That is the point and the trick evil wanted. To make us focus on the bad and what seems hopeless. Seems like he is convincing a lot of people that-that is the norm when in "Truth" it is not the norm.

Love is a choice and hate gets rid of choices. If all a person does is focus on the lack in their lives--then they will always feel and live in lack. Most lack starts in our hearts to begin with and filters to our outer self.

I love her quote! I fully understand it and welcome her faith and love in our people--All people. not just blacks--but All people.

Many single moms are single for many reasons--and the more i read the more i hear that others seem to feel that being a single parent is some type of disease or crime, or problem.
Many children are in single parent homes for so many reasons=death of one parent--being in jail-divorce--not wanting to get married-not able to get married to the other parent-OR, in my case, i wanted a child from God--And He gave me one.

Many single parents have plenty of help from grandmothers, aunties, uncles, brothers, sisters, mommys and friends.
So there is a wealth of love avaliable for the child-(ren)--God has provided--if only people would seek.

I chose to be a single parent--and you know that phrase (single parent)-never crossed my mind--i wanted a child and that is what I asked for and that is what God gave me.

It is not a bad thing for a grown woman to want a child whether she is straight gay black white asian latino-pink blue green. How people are raised--their beliefs and traditions keep many from seeing past the man-made boundries into the limitless boundries of The Father.

Now, if we are talking about teenagers having children, then that is another point all together.

But for myself as a grown woman-- i am very capable of raising my child without a partner. (ie.the traditional family of a married male and female).

And the goodness of God was given to me through my child and then through my partner and her child coming into our lives and into this home to make a larger family.

Do i advocate for all single women to have children alone--NO. Many women that are married have a very difficult time rearing children in a positive environment.

But i do encourage women, single or married to pray and then step out in faith based on what The Spirit tells them they can do with His help.

We don't know what His Will is for other people--To raise children without a partner may be His plan for certain women and men.

It is not our place to question every move that people make that does not fit our desires/goals, outlook, purpose, for our own lives.
If some women only want children if they are married--Fine--go ahead--if some women don't care if they are married or not and still want children--I say go ahead--that is fine also.

Whether these women are straight or lesbian-- it is their choice to give birth to and raise the children they are given.

It is not a disease or a negative to be a single woman or man and want a child to raise in LOVE.

thanks for these words of peace spoken by ms. mitchell prof--they are very strong and full of the glue of Love.

wisdomteachesme November 25, 2008 at 1:55 PM  

one other thing prof.,

The way I see and invision the 'black family" is any group of people that live in love and help each other in good times and bad. Stay with each other through lean times and fat times.

Raising children in a positive God loving house. This may not be the way others see it--and that is fine by me-but it's how i see it.

The family unit itself has never ONLY been about having a man-woman and some children in a house/home.
That is the ideal but not always the truth of life. Just look through history--and it is not just about the black families--it's all people that have different forms of a Family Unit.

I have at times through the years--taken in children to live with me and my family because the house they lived in had no love--just hate and anger and control. They became part of my family for the time they lived with us. and we loved them as much as they would let us.

It's easy to go from love to hate--but its so hard to go from fear & hate to love. But that never stopped us from loving and caring for these children that had no other place to go except back to the pit of hell their parents called a home.(more often than not, a 2 parent-hetero family unit)

If there is love, and forgiveness and positivity--who cares if the family unit consist of grandma and her grandchildren--or an auntie and her brothers children.
Adoption is also part of the family unit.
So many variables to learn about and accept.

So much for us all to learn about and accept about ourselves and about others that are different than us.

cinco November 25, 2008 at 2:44 PM  


I agree with alot of your last comments. I don't necessarily think badly of anyone that doesn't believe in God, but I think if you try to do the right things; treat people like you like to be treated and are genuinely kind you find a way to accomplish alot without the family being a matter of a man and a woman.

Love is the foundation. Not the gender or marital status of the family raising someone.

wisdomteachesme November 25, 2008 at 3:26 PM  

Cinco said = "Love is the foundation. Not the gender or marital status of the family raising someone."
Very True-Very true and i agree!
Also, your comment about not thinking badly of others that do not beleive in God-the trinity--i feel the same way.
It is just a waste of the time we have been given to use it to do anything negative with it.
i feel that people that are not sure and secure in their Faith often have little patience for understanding of others.

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